Typically, even the utmost time and energy given to these students is not enough. They often seek to control your time and unconsciously believe the amount of time received is a reflection of their worth. You may find yourself increasingly drained and feeling responsible for this student in a way that is beyond your normal involvement.

DO:

• Let them make their own decisions.
• Set firm and clear limits on your personal time and involvement.
• Offer referrals to other resources on– and off–campus.

DON’T:

• Get trapped into giving advice
• Let them use you as their only source of support
• Avoid the student as an alternative to setting and enforcing limits.