In our lives we have been in and out of relationships, we dump and get dumped and sometimes we don’t even get the privilege of winning the other persons love. From the confusion, nail biting and ice-cream attacks to the non-stop crying and weeping, we begin to lose a part of us every time we lose someone we truly loved. This is when it hits us, “was this the biggest mistake I’ve ever done?” then you start to realize, “I just ruined the best thing that ever happened to me!” First of all don’t ever blame yourself for everything that goes wrong because the reason it went wrong was something that didn’t satisfy you in the relationship and so it’s not entirely your fault , they were a part of it too. But what should you do if you want to be part of their lives again and how should you patch things up? Here are a few tips that can help you win them over: 1.Identify the reason for the break-up (who left whom and why). Remember there are two sides for every story so don’t look at it from your point of view only but try to see what pissed your partner off as well. According to the reason, start evaluating if you really should try to win them back or not, for example: don’t even think about patching things up with your partner if the reason for the break-up was because he lied, cheated or physically/verbally abused you (these are no-brainers). Try as much as possible to make the decision based on what your brain told you to do rather than what your heart thinks you should. 2.Change whatever personality trait that wrecked your relationship (for example complaining a lot, lying, flirting with other people or even laughing out loud are common relationship breakers). Show your partner that you have changed and try to be the person they hooked up with once again by putting your best foot forward. Make them want to be around you again and show them that they can trust you (after any break-up, trust is broken-up too with the relationship so be careful). Make a list of the things you’d like to change about yourself (without being too harsh) and start changing them, just remember you’re perfect the way you are but why not be more perfect?! 3.As crazy as this might sound but now is the part you need to seem unavailable. So if they call you to hang out, go but don’t stay for long. You don’t want to look desperate as if you have nothing better to do but at the same time you don’t want to come-off as careless or trying to blow them off. So out of every 3 phone calls, miss one. Don’t make up silly excuses like” I’m sorry I was inventing a time machine that’s why I couldn’t meet up with you” because you’ll get caught and if you do then it’ll send the wrong message (actually push them away 4.Confront them and tell them that you have taken some time off to think and that you want to work things out and show them that you’ve changed even if it’s a little bit (because if you haven’t changed at all then they won’t want to get back with the person they already dumped before) without lying too much about how much you’ve changed because time will reveal the truth someday. 5.Actively listen (key word being actively!!!) to their problems and try to reconnect with them, flirt and make them fall for you once more (you did it once, you can do it again). Communication is the key to any successful relationship, so whether you like it or not, you need to open up and express your feelings in any ways possible. Every person has a different method for expressing feelings so just do what you like to do but remember actions speak louder than words (but this doesn’t mean that words don’t speak at all! Say it in words every now and then) 6.Be patient. Every guy or girl needs their time to adjust to different situations so make sure you give them the space they need. Don’t worry they won’t forget you or get used to not having you around , just give them time to think things over and remember all the good things you’ve done for them. This is the trickiest part so just hang in there and wait for the storm to clear. 7.While you wait, forgive and forget everything wrong that went on during the relationship and during the confrontation. This step is very important in helping you deal with the situation as an outsider rather than a furious partner that wants revenge. 8.Don’t push it till you squish it. If it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be. Just accept that fact and be 100% sure that God has something better and more suitable for you in store. If you don’t win them back its ok you can still keep them as a friend.) Now that you’ve talked it through and figured out if this relationship is right for you or not, don’t forget to learn from your mistakes, you don’t want to put yourself through all of this again. Love yourself and trust your gut feeling, no one knows you better than you!