Leaving the Comfort Zone = Shortcut to Miles Extraof Present Happiness, Precious Unforgettable Moments, Great Memories & Bright Future

Do you know what is the comfort zone? Have ever asked yourself this question?

We’re going to speak about Leaving the Comfort Zone from a different point of view, next article will be related to HR and Human Development J

Now let’s go through the Comfort Zone of one of the fathers whose name is Suhail, he has one Son and one Daughter, they’re 5 years old twins

Suhail, when you go to school/kindergarten with your children … they’ll feel proud of you…you’re their father... hold their hands .....will be more than happy to enter the schools, holding your hands too…they’ll feel happy and safe…..However visiting a toy store with them is something different.. it’s one of missions that not all mature people try to think about, they just bypass such places if they don’t have/don’t like to accompany their children to such places.

Let us say, when you go for shopping {sometimes shopping itself is considered a comfort zone for so many people in world ... however a study conducted by the BBC showed that so many females are fond of shopping … it is a source of joy and a cause for relief of stress, however it has the opposite impact on the other gender, males, its normally boring, and sometimes it causes blood hypertension L }.

You might be thinking, you can’t convince a child to purchase one toy and leave the rest of store. Honestly, when the children enter a big toy store they feel like they entered Wonderland, they don’t know from where to start, they look surprised for 5 minutes… … their eyes are shining..then they start counting anything, and they want to try everything, and who is still standing there…at the gate/entrance of store… looking shocked.. wide mouth opened..getting crazy look… it’s you J of course …. At this age they are still considered too young to be convinced…no way for using the classical methods, however, i would tell you the children at this age are mature enough to discuss and get convinced first, it’s the digital age, no classical theories will be heard, no pressure to be used J just give it a try…its fun… on one hand you might be losing time and getting high temper back and forth, you can’t control your anger , but on other hand your attitude will benefit you gaining your family’s trust and respect, you’ll consequently start to enjoy dealing with them, while keeping the boundaries of your flexibility, decisions and trust…it’s a kind of proving your power in a different way .. :) … for example, you might agree with them ‘’before leaving the house’’ that each child is allowed to purchase either:

-         2 candies + 1 toy+ 1 Sandwich & 1 juice, or

-         2 toys + 1 candy+ 1 Sandwich & 1 ice-cream , or

-         1 toy + 1 candy + 1 Sandwich + 1 popcorn & ice-cream , or

-         ………etc…..you’re flexible between 3 to 5 options :)

Since the children at the current digital age are strongly willing to discuss and to be convinced , then the best way is having the right to take decision in their minor issues (what they eat, what they drink, what they wear, what they watch, which game to play, what kind of food/drink they want…. Etc…:( … Now they’ll start thinking… they’ll feel they’re taking the drive, they’ll try to select the best choices that look much bigger in terms of benefit, they might agree on one of the options, they’ll feel stronger as they took their own decisions , It’s their selection… now you’ll be more than happy J … just be careful when they enter the store, tiny surprised eyes and wide open mouths… they’ll start convincing you to change your mind ‘’remember to stick to the first decision…you’re the one who will lose money, power and respect J ‘’ …crying… yelling … will try to replace their previous selection with totally different options… but your list should remain unchanged.. they have to stick to their options only, they’re free to select from the available options, later once they reach the toy store… any time the try to convince you to purchase something wasn’t listed, they will stop from the first ‘No’ you say, may be its fine purchase next time (let’s say next week, but not now). Parenting is one of the hardest missions in the world, it continues with the life long, while building respect and trust is the worst part in the mission. This way their voices are heard, and your words are respected too…. :)... Enjoy parenting your own way…spend enough time with them at all stages….they’re really too short…time will pass… when they become teenagers they’re little bit mature, but not enough to take major decisions, however they have to learn to respect elder people … they should learn with the movement of time when to apologize, when to take lead, who to trust ……give them short tasks every now and then…let them take their decisions while taking the expected consequences into consideration…such tasks will make them feel trust worthy… you can also open the door for your children to choose which friends to hangout with..Follow your children like a young bird learning how to fly.. make sure to tell them every now and then you trust them….you love them…you’re proud of them…. Your heart and door are open for them anytime ...open discussions every now and then on the shared and in general issues ... this will encourage them to face the world....let them try what they want since it’s not against the culture and religion ...share reading books..any kind of shared interest CDs, DVDs, websites, social media, ...travel with them, watch movies together... take a walk in the morning... play sports together... share the happy moments together, small gifts every now and then will be absolutely precious memory …very touchy.. like magic... this way they will never forget how proud they are to have you….they’ll be glad to accompany you, and to take care of you when you’re getting sick or older, it’s the time they’ll enjoy supporting you.

It’s Your Comfort Zone :) Happy Parenting

Hind Elsammani

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